The youngest son returns from the army. Conscription: how do you feel about it? As I was waiting for my son from the army. Short SMS with the return from the army
The youngest son is returning from service in the Ministry of Emergencies. Father and older brother ask: - Well, tell me, how is the Ministry of Emergency Situations served there? Otherwise we have only been in soviet army served, and in the Ministry of Emergency Situations they say, hoo how they serve. The son answers: - Yes, a complete ******* rev. There is nothing to tell. - Tell me. - Yes, what to tell, you want, I better show you. In the evening we gather at the table, we will hold a meeting, the daily routine for tomorrow. Gather at the table in the evening. Son: - So, it means tomorrow: at 6 in the morning we rise, at 8 breakfast, at 10 we leave for firewood. The father is appointed responsible for the transport - you will harness the horse, and the older brother is appointed responsible for the inventory - 3 axes, 3 saws, 3 ropes. Father and older brother are indignant: - To get up so early on ***? Let's get up at 9, have breakfast at 9:30, and leave at 10. Son: Not ****, at 6 we rise, at 8 breakfast, at 10 we leave for firewood. Well, we got up at 6, in 5 minutes we harnessed the horse, collected the inventory, walked up to 8 from corner to corner, had breakfast, until 10 we walked from corner to corner, finally 10 hours. Inventory inspection. - 3 axes, 3 saws, everything is in place. We load the inventory, we leave. We sat down and went. They are passing 100 meters, son: - Stop! Checking inventory. Father and brother: - What test? Only checked. Son: - Not ****. At the last check, they might have ***** ated something. We stopped. Laid out 3 axes, 3 saws, everything is in place. We load the inventory, we go further. And so every 100 meters. They are approaching the river. Son: - So, here we wade. Father: - Why? 300 meters to the side of the bridge, drove across the bridge. Son: - Not ****! So we lost a lot of time with you. I said wade, then wade. Fucked wade. They drowned the cart. Barely pulled out. Towards evening we got to the forest. Chopped, sawed. Son: - We load inventory, load firewood. Loaded, let's go. After 100 meters: - Stop! Checking inventory. Father and brother: - On ***, he's under the wood. Son: - Not ****, unloading. They unloaded, checked: 3 axes, 3 saws, everything is in place. We load inventory, load firewood. And so every 100 meters. They are approaching the river. Son: - So, here we wade. Father and brother: - On ***? Let's go over the bridge. Son: - Not ****! Wade. Well. The cart was drowned, barely pulled out. The firewood is gone downstream. We somehow got home. Son: - So, no one disperses, in an hour a meeting: summing up the results for today and clarifying tasks for tomorrow. Gathered. Son: - So, what have we done today and what is the result? Father: - All day ******* ish, no result. Son: - Right! So tomorrow: at 6 we rise, at 8 breakfast, at 10 we leave for firewood.
There is a shorter version:
At 6 in the morning, the whole village was awakened by an eerie sound made by a hanging rail on the main square in front of the village council. In 5 minutes the whole square was filled with people, everyone came running. Dembel stopped hammering on the rail, went up to the crowd and commanded:
- Become! Level up ... set aside! Level up! Attention !!! So ... my father and brother and I are going for firewood now, the rest are on schedule. Disperse!
According to the Ministry of Defense, the Belarusian army is declining. In 1994, about 40 people committed suicide, in 2016 - four. After the incident in Pecs, the Investigative Committee for additional study of all the materials of the checks and "rejection" materials for the six years of the department's existence on the facts of death or injury in the army. And today, more than one family of guys who, according to documents, committed suicide, are hoping for an investigation.
Story 1. "I often repeated the phrase:" People are not iron, money is not the main thing "
Mikhail Bevzyuk drafted into the army in 2014. In March 2015, the dead 22-year-old boy was brought to his family in the village of Lesets, Kalinkovichi district. On the eve of his transfer from training in Pechai, Mikhail was found hanged in the toilet of the dryer. And the day before, he received his salary.
Mikhail Bevzyuk was 22 years old. He grew up in a village in a family where one mother raised five children. Photo from the page of Yuri Bevzyuk in the social network
Yuri Bevzyuk, Mikhail's brother, says: the soldiers reported what happened. They called and said that there was an emergency. The next day, Mikhail was brought to bury.
The guy was 22 years old, he graduated from the Zhilichi State Agricultural College and received the profession of a horticultural technologist. Mikhail grew up in a village in a family where one mother raised five children.
“At first we didn’t believe it, we didn’t understand what was happening,” Yuri recalls. - I don't even know how to explain. The military brought in and said that he was the best shooter and loader in the division, that they offered to stay under the contract.
On the whole, Mikhail did not complain about the conditions in the army to his relatives. The only thing he said was that they were poorly fed and demanded money for the opportunity to use the telephone. They tried to send this money to him.
- Misha often repeated the phrase: “People are not iron, money is not the main thing,” says Yuri. - But he never expressed suicidal thoughts and was a positive person.
Mikhail was found hanged on March 21, 2015 in the toilet of the dryer. USK in Minsk region opened a criminal case. As the official representative of the USK in the Minsk region told Tatiana Belonog, investigative actions on this fact are being carried out today.
Alexander Belotsky, the husband of Mikhail's sister, about a week after the incident went to the military unit in Pechi.
- We were taken to the toilet, where everything happened. There is a toilet and a dryer in the same room. They showed the pipe on which they found him. The pipe is located at a distance of 40 centimeters from the wall. The wall was smooth and painted. I drew attention to this, because when Misha was brought in to be buried, his eyebrow was cut over his right eye. We were told that when they were filming, they pulled him along the wall and, probably, scratched him. But, as it turned out, the wall was smooth, there is no rough surface, - says Alexander.
He recalls that when the military brought Mikhail, his family wanted to take him to the house and inspect, but they were told that there was no time. But at the cemetery, they still noticed a bruise on his face.
- We then went to the Investigative Committee, and they gave us a look at the case. There were four volumes. I flipped through, looked at the photos, read the conclusion. It turns out that when he was removed, the unit's doctor did a heart massage and broke two of his ribs. But it made me suspicious.
Alexander notes that Mikhail's notes also appeared in the case.
- He wrote something in the style of "sergeants, what will it be easier for you?", About some money, another note was found under his comrade's pillow, it said "mom, I'm sorry." The feeling that the film was being filmed - everything is frame by frame, everything is somehow very harmonious.
Alexander says that on March 20 in the evening Mikhail received his salary, and on March 21 he was already found hanged in the toilet.
The interlocutor recalls that in December 2014, Mikhail called from the army and asked to send him money, but in the background someone was saying something. The guy abruptly hung up the phone.
- He asked for 50 rubles if transferred to new money. Like, New Year, going to fold.
Alexander says that Mikhail's mother somehow resigned herself to what happened, and he himself did not know where else to turn.
For his part, Yuri notes that the attention to the story of the death of Alexander Korzhich helped to tell about what happened in public.
- Misha never gave up slack, did not give himself upset. During the funeral, they began to say that maybe because of the girl. But which girl? He had a whole phone number of girls. So when they told us what happened, we didn't believe it, he couldn't. We were just shocked.
Story 2. “They said, wrote poetry about death. But where, explain, are there such verses in the army? "
Pavel Starenkov from the agro-town of Khodosy, Mstislavsky district, was called up in May 2016. Destination - military unit 44540 near Zhodino. In November, the unit commander phoned the parents and said that. In February 2017, it was near the village of Zalesye, a few kilometers from Zhodino. The parents were told that Pasha hanged himself on a birch tree near the bank of Plisa. The father and mother do not believe that it could have been suicide. For a year now they have been writing complaints and asking investigators to figure it out.
Pavel Starenkov. Photo courtesy of the search team "Angel"
- What was our Pasha like? - asks Valentina Arkadyevna, soldier's mom. - The only child. When I was in the 10th grade, we moved to Khodosy - closer to work. It was difficult for him to join the team, he was not particularly friendly with anyone. No, he had friends, but there - in the village where we used to live. There are six to seven boys of the same age, from the cradle together. Pasha went there for the weekend, played football together, swam in the summer.
The son, mom describes, was humble. I came home from school, talked with my parents, sat in the computer. He studied medium. I understood that I needed to get an education, I graduated from college: specialty - an elevator operator. I thought about doing further, but did not qualify for the competition.
- In the fall of 2015, the agenda came, - continues Valentina Starenkova. - He was tugged at, but not taken away. Postponed until the next call. I hoped they might not be taken away. He did not want to join the army, his soul did not lie. Doctors wrote in the conclusion: chronic gastritis and lagging behind in weight. I called the military commissar, explained, he answered: "Now they are taking everyone, we have no hot spots."
On May 26, 2016, Pavel was taken away and sent to a military unit near Zhodino. He called every weekend. Everybody, my mother says, told me: that they dig trenches, that blood through the nose. They advised me not to worry because of the blood, everything will work out - there is an adaptation. In June, the parents went to their son to take the oath, they remember that they liked everything, the commanders performed well.
- Then he was sent to Pechi for training - from July 4 to September 8, - my mother returns to those events. - It has become more difficult. Once he dialed me, he was generally upset. I packed up and drove off. But at the meeting he did not complain about anything, everything, he repeated, was normal. The closer to the end of the tutorial, the more difficult it was. The order here, he said, is wild.
- What did he tell?
- I didn't tell anything on the phone. Did you want to go to Zhodino as soon as possible? In a conversation with me, he perceived this as inevitable. Unlearn - and back.
- Did you often go to see him?
- In August I visited him, my aunt from Minsk in September. In November, when he returned to Zhodino, quarantine was declared there. If they wanted to come, they couldn't. We asked him: Pasha, get used to it. Configured that everything will work out. They put money on the phone and on the card. Call us, chat. After all, you can't really hit the Minsk region from the border area.
- Didn't you understand anything from the conversations?
- No, only in last days was sad. The old man asked: "Pasha, are they running into you?" He answered: not really. I don't know, maybe he didn't want to upset us. And on Friday, November 11, I called at 9 pm and in such a doomed voice: "I'm fine, I'm fine." He said two identical phrases and hung up. I was upset. I had a bad feeling. In the morning I sent him a parcel - coffee, tea, sweets ... This parcel was returned to me in December.
On Saturday, Valentina Arkadyevna called a relative in Minsk, asked to go to the unit, her aunt could not - it did not work out because of work. They expected Pasha to call, but he still did not call. They began to dial themselves, hoping that those who collect the phones from the soldiers will see that the mobile is constantly vibrating and will give it to the owner.
“The subscriber is out of range,” is all we heard in response, ”recalls my mother. - And in the evening they called us from the unit, they said: "Pasha is gone." And there it started - commanders, deputies, psychologists recruited midnight. Where, they asked, could he be? How do I know? He's been in the army for six months.
Pasha was searched for by law enforcement officers and the Angel search and rescue squad.
“And then the commander called:“ The events showed that he was running home, ”continues Valentina Arkadyevna. - Where is he running ?! There are 280 kilometers. Two military men arrived. We stayed for a week. The husband has already run out of patience: “For two, three days a person can stay in non-existence. The rest is already unrealistic. What are you kidding me for? " And they: "We have work, we have an order."
And then, Mom says, everyone left and everything was quiet.
In February, on the banks of Plisa, which is a few kilometers from Zhodino, fishermen found Pasha's body. The parents were informed: he hanged himself on a birch tree.
“We were told he ran away,” Mom tries to restrain her emotions. - Everyone, they say, went to the bathhouse, and he complained of poor health, stayed in the barracks and ran away. But how did he run away? Why was he not taken to the medical unit?
Parents do not know the answers to these questions. At the end of March, after all the examinations, the Starenkovs brought a closed coffin with their son. And that's all.
- The Minsk investigator, who was involved in this case, closed it in May, the Borisov investigator, it seems, in August, - Valentina Arkadyevna shares her feelings. - In Borisov, they refused to initiate a criminal case, they said suicide. But they killed him, or he did it himself, the examination did not establish. We wrote to the prosecutor's office, newspapers - it was pointless. And only after the death of Sasha Korzhych, everything became public. The UK said it will raise all military death cases in the past few years. We haven't received anything yet. Yesterday (November 16. - Approx. TUT.BY) I called the investigator, he said that he had transferred everything to the Central Office of the Investigative Committee.
- Why did you decide that it could be suicide?
- They said that in training center Pasha kept a diary: in a notebook where he made calculations and notes in class, he did lyrical digressions- Mom answers. - We were shown a photocopy of sheets from this notebook. They asked: "Pashin's handwriting?" I felt bad, my husband looked: where the numbers and calculations - yes, the rest - no. And that's it, we haven't seen this diary again. The investigator brought him and took him away.
- What are these lyrical digressions?
- Poems about death. But where, explain, in the army such verses? There, after all, he had neither books nor the Internet. And he never kept a diary before.
The press service of the USC in the Minsk region told TUT.BY: regarding the death of Pavel Starenkov, the USC in the Minsk region continues to carry out a number of verification and procedural actions.
Story 3. "I should have watched you wake up in the morning and get your hands on your chest."
“I don’t know what happened in that part,” says Lilia Ancud from Molodechno.
- Nobody wanted to do this business, - adds her husband Vladimir.
“The Center for Psychological and Sociological Research provides remote psychological assistance and counseling on:
- crisis life situation;
- misunderstanding on the part of others;
- conflicts with comrades in the service;
- other psychological problems.
In accordance with the Law of the Republic of Belarus "On the provision of psychological assistance" dated July 1, 2010 No. 153-3, anonymity is guaranteed. "
My sons are already adults, each has his own family. But I still remember my very first feelings, when first one son was born to me, then a second: my God, these are boys, they should go to the army ...
This was a topic on which my husband and I were not unanimous. Having studied at the institute with a military department, he received his army experience in 2 months of training. And he argued that the boys should go to the army. I, purely as a woman, and even after listening to different creepy stories, was categorically against and said that I would do everything possible so that my children did not serve in the army ...
Time passed, the sons grew up. The youngest was diagnosed with asthma - at that time we lived in a city with a large chemical production, and he was very small when the accident happened there, a couple of years after which such consequences with the respiratory organs appeared. However, this is a completely different story. The elder graduated from the university, and decided to join the army. At that time, my husband worked in Moscow, and we lived in Kirov. I was very worried - but I just tried to prepare my son mentally to the best of my ability, and he prepared himself physically as best he could.
Then there was mystical story... A week before the call, I was in Moscow, and passing by the Danilov Monastery, I went to one of its churches. And there is a counter with information that applications for a prayer service in the skete of St. Sergius of Radonezh are accepted here. And this is just the heavenly patron of my Seryoga ... In general, I ordered a prayer service for a year - just about the life of Seryoga. And then another, already in another temple. And she returned home. It's time to call. My son and I parted, of course, I was very worried - where, how is he there ... A week later, the husband calls and says: the son said that he is in the unit located 15 minutes from the house where the husband lived, and that they every morning they run cross by his house ...
Then we were sworn in by the whole family - by that time the youngest had entered the university and studied in Moscow. Part in the center of Moscow, at the General Staff. It was incredibly lucky - every week my husband came to Seryoga with a bag of goodies, and he was happy about it like a child. And of course communication with my father too. Sometimes I also came. True, they were rarely released into the city. Since his son's specialty is IT and English, he spent this year quite well. He was one of the main IT-schnik there, was in charge of the computer economy. And from time to time he taught English to his teenage daughter, his commander, and walked her a couple of times in Gorky Park. He also gave concerts to the unit commander. It was funny - Serega is a master of bamboo ethnic flutes, he makes them to order, teaches them how to play, and plays well himself. The thing is exotic. Here the commander invited him from time to time to listen to the meditative music of the flute ...
Well, this is so, pleasant moments, which did not exclude enormous physical stresses and everything that a soldier is supposed to go through. What kind of tests did the fathers-commanders do not suit them ... Either a long run in chemical protection suits with full ammunition, then a rise in the middle of the night and the task of doing 1000 (one thousand) jumps from a squat, then fell-squeezed out to complete exhaustion, and then the same amount without a break ... Thank God, the commander got bored of waiting for up to a thousand, and after 600 he let them go in peace ... But even this is impossible to imagine. There were many overcomes that my son learned to make through super-efforts. And it was the very experience that he still appreciates very much now, 6 years after the service.
Of course, not everything was so smooth - already in the middle of the service, he managed to catch pneumonia, and somehow it was all stupid with them (and this was in the part of the General Staff, in the center of Moscow), that in part he was not treated at all - exactly until he lost consciousness and fell in the barracks. I knew about his illness, called up. And she reported to the medical unit to pay attention. And nifiga ... You know - at that time I had such feelings that I understood how suicide bombers appear ... Such darkness and turbidity rose in my soul that if I were there, I don't know what nonsense I could have done something ... The church helped me, prayer in front of my favorite icons (moreover, I cannot classify myself as a real believer, I rarely go to church, I don’t eat all the prescribed rules). But my soul cleared up - and there my son was sent to the hospital, and he was treated normally ... Oh, but of course there was enough experience.
But thank God, this year is over, my son returned home. And the usual life went. In which he recalls his military experience with kindness, with gratitude. And he really appreciates what he understood there: you can overcome a lot that at first glance seems insurmountable.
And of course I'm glad for him. But my youngest got an exemption from this case because of asthma. And I am also glad of that (not asthma, of course - we did our best to cure it, and now he has a long period of remission. God willing, it will be fixed). He is different for me, and he has his own way. Let each of them have their own experience.
And my attitude to military service is twofold. I do not believe that absolutely all boys should have this experience. And only those of them who, in terms of their personal and physical qualities, are able to go through this school without harm to their health, and who are themselves internally ready for service. This readiness can be taught - at least when the elder made such a decision, we talked a lot with him on this topic, that every test during this period should be taken as an invaluable experience, and strive to get out of it with honor and extract a positive. And of course, to know that this is temporary ... For those who are not ready to devote their lives to this. I respect those who serve professionally. This is not an easy path. Moreover, this is a system, and not very perfect.
Well, in conclusion. To all parents of boys who decide (of their own accord or by the will of circumstances) to serve in the army - let this time pass as calmly as possible for the soldier and for the parents. Let all negative cases bypass your sons, and the biggest test will be exercise stress... Which they, of course, will learn to perform with the benefit of their moral and volitional qualities. Well, for those who decide not to serve - so that this decision is meaningful, it will not be too expensive, and will not bring problems to the life of their son. So that the topic "slope" does not become a leading one in other aspects of life.