The girl was looking for a rich husband. And this is how one clever banker "put it down". Why do girls want to marry a rich man? The Psychology of Greed Why Girls Look for Rich Boys

There are many spoiled people in modern society daddy's classic daughterswho sincerely do not see another option for a happy married life, how to pass from reliable fatherly hands to the hands of a rich man. These beautiful girls know a lot and know how, since their parents taught them a lot during their life: they speak a foreign language, work on a computer, study, or have already received some kind of diploma, but they basically don’t want to work.

“Not for that I, such a berry, was raised. I deserve more than working for a meager salary, wearing cheap clothes and cooking,” they think. Such girls grow up in families where the parents did all the housework themselves and did not instill responsibility in the children. A girl who grew up in such a family does not want to do anything other than to maniacally look after her appearance. From childhood, she learned only one thing: "A girl must be beautiful and slender, and then there will certainly be a prince who will provide her with a luxurious and happy life."

All day long girls leaf through glossy magazines and read articles on the Internet about the life of famous stars and businessmen who live in beautiful cottages, drive luxury cars, have their own yachts and private jets. Looking at the photographs of the girls accompanying such men, they sigh and squint at the glaring ideality of their life, envy them and dream: I wish I was so lucky too!

The parents themselves do not see nothing wrong with thatthat their adult daughter does not wash the dishes, does not make the bed, does not help her mother to put things in order in the house and does not know where the food comes from in the refrigerator. "Youth is irrepressible, and the world is material. Our daughter is a beauty and a smart girl, so she will definitely find the man who will make her happy," they think.

And their daughter I want everything at once. They don't give anything for free, but she doesn't even want to think about going to earn money herself. This takes time, effort and not the fact that it will turn out to be rich. And rich men, even if they are older than her dad, who want to have sex with young and beautiful girls, have always been and will always be. They are used to considering such girls as goods, and the girls themselves have sex with them in order to receive expensive gifts from them - apartments, cars, fur coats, diamonds ...

About quality of sex with a rich man it is not accepted to speak of a respectable age. Because even the most unpleasant sex lasts only a few minutes, and apartments, cars and diamonds remain with you forever. Rarely does such a relationship end in marriage, even if the man is divorced or single. The heroines of such stories, as a rule, tell with tears about the humiliation and beatings of a man who first “showed her the whole world, gave her a car and an apartment,” and then “kicked her, broke his ribs” and disappeared.

In our domestic business, great success is usually achieved by those menwhich are characterized by demonstrative behavior. They love themselves most of all, but they do not know how to love and respect others. Feelings such as conscience and empathy, which are characteristic of any normal person, are usually absent. Having sex with a young girl, they think that they are using her in exchange for material values \u200b\u200bthat are presented to her. They perceive any refusal or attempt to betray him as a betrayal and treat the one who betrayed him as cruelly as with the enemy who prevents him from achieving success in business.

So it turns out that sex with a rich man - this is just a pass to the desired world, not an opportunity to become happy. In essence, this is domestic prostitution. A young girl is ashamed to stand on the street, but she wants to live beautifully and richly. But is the quick material well-being of the sacrifice worth its body? After all, youth is one and it is better to spend it next to the person you love and who loves you.

How much is said today that women are picky and selfish today: they try to find a richer man for themselves, first of all they look at the consistency of a partner, and not at his human qualities, build relationships based on material wealth in the future.

Have it all today? Of course have! But it seems that many go too far in accusing our women of a fair amount of prudence and greed. Of course, hunters for other people's money were everywhere and at all times, and with the economic development of our country and the open opportunities for earning money, their number could justly increase. But is the desire of the overwhelming majority of today's women to have a worthy and wealthy man next to them so scary and immoral? Let's try to figure it out.

Why does a woman want to find herself a better off and more stable share? We will not talk now about those sharks who choose their main occupation and act in cold blood in this direction, using all known methods and means. And we will turn to quite normal and adequate girls and women who, one way or another, along with all the “ideal” qualities of the expected man, put his financial level.

1) At the moment, great prospects have opened up in our country both for and for good personal earnings. In this sense, something like healthy competition has formed among men in the work plan - whoever is smarter, more purposeful, more active, he achieves more and climbs higher. Accordingly, from a woman's point of view, a logical formula can be derived: whoever earned more is more viable. This means that this is best suited for joint future offspring.

Every mother instinctively seeks to take care of her offspring as well as possible, therefore, subconsciously, she is looking for the best and most reliable place for them, food, care. And in the human language - housing, providing everything you need and not only, opportunities for education and development. In the same way, subconsciously, she seeks to cover the rear in case something suddenly happens: she dies, gets sick - how will she live? So she provides them with insurance for the future - for a decent survival and living. Naturally, a well-to-do man in this sense meets all the needs of a woman as much as possible from the point of view of her main mission - the birth of a child.

From all this, we can conclude that an important role in women's "needs" is played not by cold calculation and the desire to attach their fifth point to a warmer place, but by echoes of the natural instinct of quality care for their offspring. And, of course, these things are supported by the obviousness of the fact that men are different nowadays, and with a wide choice, no one forbids wanting better.

Here is what he writes, for example, doctor Kurpatov about this question: “The question of financial prospects and solvency of a young man has always been important for a woman, even in the“ disinterested ”Soviet era. Of course, because she gave birth to him! Of course, he must be wealthy. How else? There is only one significant difference: the range of possibilities has grown enormously. If earlier the young man competed only with the “guy from the neighboring yard”, now he has an oligarch from the penthouse in his competitors. The spread is colossal "... And he continues with regard to the requests of modern ladies: "... not because the girls have gone mercantile, but because the girls already see both".

2) The second point is the "spirit" of the time. Today all mass media - television, gloss, newspapers - zealously promote a rich and beautiful life. Their plots and pages are full of stories about Cinderellas who snatched away a gorgeous prince, glamorous girls who sort out the rich one after another, and beauties who have all the roads open to a sweet and carefree life. And how should the consciousness of a modern girl be formed under the onslaught of such propaganda? Contrary? But why? Because an initially decent and highly spiritual person filters this kind of information?

Partly, of course, this is true. But we are all modern people, we live in step with the times, we buy advertised services and goods, we work in private companies, we go to popular places, we try to buy new and fashionable cars. On what basis, then, should we 100% filter this particular side of life? Of course, we pass some part of this “propaganda” through ourselves - some more, others less - but a certain part of the “spirit” of our time remains in our consciousness and begins to participate in the formation of our life attitudes. And this is normal, this is a natural process. Good or bad, but it exists, it goes, and this will happen at all times.

3) Today women themselves have become quite independent, earn good money, can provide for themselves. Therefore, it justly seems to them that a man should be better - therefore, requests are growing. This is normal, this is natural. The historical consciousness of the “weaker sex” has not yet atrophied in female self-identification: a man should be a defender, a reliable shoulder, stronger and more powerful in all planes: physically, morally, materially. And if I am at a certain level, then my man logically should be at least at the same level, plus have some other "addition" - this is the female logic.

4) When a woman wants wealth for herself personally, then her main need in this sense is to be better, more beautiful, more attractive. Ask what she will get maximum joy from: from the car, apartment and impressions of the trip, or from investing a certain amount of money in her own attractiveness and feeling like a goddess. Almost everyone will agree on the latter. And why does a woman want to be better and more beautiful? All for the same man.

So let's not blame modern women for the fact that all of them, by and large, have become mercantile. "Predators" have existed at all times, and even if there are more of them, this does not mean that absolutely all young ladies are now engaged exclusively in hunting, and not building relationships and love. It's just that the men themselves, with such an economic model of society, showed themselves from the best side: they "got promoted", "turned around", "earned". And, of course, their best representatives potentially noticeably win in the natural but invisible competition for the attention of the fair sex.

And even if all the ladies do not get superoligarchs, what is wrong with at least wanting a better life for themselves and their future generation? Yes, nothing - a natural, logical and logical process, not only for any normal human consciousness, but also for a biologically determined female instinct.

I have no luck with men. More precisely, grooms around - a dime a dozen, but there is no one to marry. I'll explain right away. When choosing a life partner, I have several criteria. He, of course, must be kind, strong, caring and loving, but what is no less important, must have an apartment, a car and earn good money. I do not need an oligarch, and I will not meet such a man, because I myself am from a simple family and I do not move in those circles. But I will not live with a boy who has not a penny in his soul. And I don't see anything reprehensible in this. However, it is this natural desire that prevents me from establishing my personal life.

I will explain my theory. Every man believes that the fair sex, under any circumstances, should fulfill their purely female duties: wash, clean, iron, wash, clean, go to the grocery store, cook, watch over children, etc. Some men even have a plate or a mug it is difficult to wash behind itself. They believe that this is not a man's business. The husband of one of my friends will sit hungry, but he will never even reheat cooked food in the microwave. He says that a woman should feed her husband, period! And another friend of mine divorced his wife because she turned out to be a useless housewife: she could not cook anything except pasta with a bouillon cube, never put things in order at home and scattered her things all over the apartment.

If a woman begins to express dissatisfaction with the fact that all household chores are solely on her alone, and demands that household chores be divided equally, the man immediately takes a pose: “From time immemorial, women are the keepers of the hearth. It happened historically. And there is no need to shift women's responsibilities onto men's shoulders! "

Well dear men, we women agree. And we must admit that most of us, one way or another, do what we have to. Personally, I do absolutely all the housework, because my mother raised me like that. And I cook amazingly! And in general, I am an excellent hostess. But why, then, dear men, having firmly mastered our female duties, forget about your male duties? Remember, after all, historically, if a man marries a girl, he, firstly, is obliged to bring her into the house, and secondly, to provide for her, and himself, and the common children. Our modern men do not care at all about where they will take their wife after the wedding, or even look for rich brides with apartments, so as not to “bother” too much. They also do not want to support their family and will not allow their wife to stay at home and not work. Well, what can we talk about if modern men are not even a bit ashamed that they earn less than their wives!

If a girl dreams of marrying a wealthy man with housing, the man will immediately call her mercantile and mean. And what's wrong with the fact that a woman wants to connect her life with a man who is only able to fulfill his male duties? A girl who is financially supported by a man will immediately be contemptuously called a kept woman or a prostitute. But, excuse me, for what? Just because she is trying to restore historical justice?

In general, either I do not understand something and demand too much, or modern men are simply insolent and zazhralis!

Respectfully yours and hope for understanding, Galina.

In short: because they have no obligation to be rich, unlike men, and because gender inequality. Plus, because such a union is perhaps the easiest social lift for a woman, if she herself is not the daughter of a deputy, tycoon, high-ranking official or general.

So far, even in the Western world, where feminism seems to have won long ago and achieved its main goals, there are very few countries where feminism won really political or economic self-realization.

In other words, for a woman not to want to marry a rich man, she must have either an alternative or fear.

And I must say that Western feminism is slowly giving women both options, without limiting the ladies to the search for a fat bag and showing that it is not at all healthy to be in the position of an initially weak and vulnerable element against the background of such a man.

However, even in the West, different versions of the conservative plot about Cinderella are filmed - both "Pretty Woman" and the modern "50 Shades ...".

If we delete feminism and recall the classic works of culture of the centuries until the 19-20th, it turns out that the main capital of a woman was fertility (the ability to bear children), her reproductive function, there was usually no talk of any wealth, especially since property and money was often inherited through the male line. It is also worth mentioning that women did not have the right to vote until the last century - the political (representative) function was performed by men, who allegedly expressed the “opinion of the family”.

In Russia, feminism never happened, but there was an unsuccessful Soviet experience of equality (when men were actually excluded from family life, but society zealously watched how a woman played the roles of mother and mistress), coupled with the 20th century, which was destructive for the male gene pool ( World War I, then civil war, dispossession of kulaks, the first wave of Stalinist repressions, the GULAG, the Great Patriotic War, the second wave of repressions, the artificial creation of a homophobic environment in the criminal world, Afghanistan, perestroika, 90s with bandits, Chechnya, “shock therapy” and chaotic market economy ...).

Already in the 1970s, Soviet women began to "beg" back, to the kitchen, giving up political and other ambitions outside the family. In the mass works of those years, attitudes towards female happiness are broadcast ("Office Romance", "Moscow Does Not Believe in Tears").

At the same time, at about the same time, the phenomenon of first-sex families from mothers and grandmothers along with single mothers, who are forced to combine both gender roles due to the absence of a spouse and father, appeared in Soviet society. And the second phenomenon is the atmosphere of manlessness, multiplied by the fact that the social role of a man was in many ways even more archaic against the background of equal Soviet women. And male beauty and well-groomed not only cost not a penny, but was aggravated by worker-peasant homophobia and the humiliating label “like a woman” (sugary, cute, pomaded).

An adequate attitude towards male housework was not laid down, it was not considered prestigious for men to cook food, wash dishes, manage children, wash, and so on - but they were popular folk wisdom like "the way to a man's heart is through his stomach."

In the 80s and perestroika times, the iron curtain falls - and women begin to dream even more of a supposedly Western-style bourgeois family in which both spouses work, but the man has a higher income, gives the woman flowers, drives her in a car, and what! - after all, in the USSR even "Zhiguli" were in short supply - and opens doors in front of it and kisses the hands.

The Italian macho Adriano Celentano, who seduced and tamed the obstinate beauty Ornella Muti on the movie screen, becomes a truly People's Artist of the Union.

Plus, do not forget about the growing economic stratification: towards the end of its existence, the USSR is approaching with might and main a developing class of proto-bourgeoisie from among cooperative businessmen: not only publicity has been declared in the country, but the famous law on cooperation has also been adopted.

In mass culture and everyday life, the collapse of Soviet equality is actually affirmed. In favor of a retreat to conservative values, when masculine attributes (power, money, power, fame and influence) are rigidly attributed to men, and feminine qualities (beauty; family and raising children; tenderness, emotions and empathy) are no less rigidly attached to women.

Moreover, the Soviet Union was a militaristic state with a conscript army as an institution of discrimination against men, on the one hand, but at the same time as a powerful social lift for the natives of rural areas, and the country was either preparing for a major war, or healed wounds after one of local military conflicts in Asia and Africa.

Then the 90s happened as the era of hypermasculinity in the face of the lads, nomenklatura “red jackets” and a few real businessmen who joined the market stream. The 90s finally condemned the Soviet model of gender equality. Not ready for a capitalist economy (however, together with the country as a whole), people blocked railways, received funerals from Chechnya, and took out factories for scrap. Plus the phenomenon of same-sex families and fear of being manless. After all, a husband, father or brother is either sitting, or killed, or drinking out of grief.

Liberals pissed away such a country, bastards! Fuck your freedom of speech when there is nothing to feed the children!

Then we got a young and assertive leader of the nation, criminal structures were legalized, and oil prices soared, flooding the country with money. The proto-bourgeoisie of the 80s took shape in businessmen and an oligarchy.

The society, which yearned for a “strong hand”, has finally acquired a legitimate bearer of hegemonic masculinity.

Naturally, women have practically no socially approved alternative to successful marriage.

Be a "woman with eggs" - energetic, strong-willed and decisive - suddenly, but predictably, it became ashamed, because it means that such a woman, it seems, simply does not have a normal man who would solve political and economic issues.

TV shows and the same popular culture portray a happy woman as a housewife in the boarding house of a wealthy man. Rublevka - the center of Moscow - Maldives.

And less and less - as an independent and emancipated mistress of their own destiny. As, after all, a professional or an intellectual. Like an athlete or a winner.

“Again I will be alone. A strong woman is crying at the window, ”Alla Pugacheva sings to us in 1995. “Remember, you promised me a fairy tale? And to wear flowers, and on hands ”, - continues the group“ Brilliant ”in 2002. “I love my husband,” says a certain Veronica Andreeva from 2017.

It is clear that choosing between
- “I'm behind him like a stone wall, he is a reliable and generous man”,
- “got in touch with a loser, whose everyone around him is to blame for his worthlessness”,
- "so what, what he cooks, it would be better if he found a second job, soon a new iPhone is coming out"
and the erroneous idea of \u200b\u200bfeminism and female independence (“everything by herself”, “like a man”), a woman is more likely to choose the first, opportunistic option in the person of that very rich man.

It is also clear that thanks to feminism, women begin to value completely different traits and qualities in men, and not just one level of income. After all, the number of women who need self-realization outside the family, who believe in themselves and who believe that partnership and equality, when the opinions of men and women weigh plus or minus the same, are increasing, is a more honest scheme than female manipulations based on on female tricks and mythical "weaknesses".

The states and Europe went through the stage of accumulating initial capital and assimilating female emancipation in the second half of the 20th century, we can say that now, in the 21st century, there is a protracted final phase. The result of which will be a generation of free and self-sufficient women who have a real alternative to “love the rich without love”.

In this sense, Russia is somewhere between the stages of bargaining and depression, if not in an earlier stage of anger. (Yes, Western women once also thought feminists were crazy, giggled at caricatures of suffragettes, and were satisfied with the traditional female role in society.) Today's Russian women (and Russians) are just beginning to realize why feminism is still a blessing.